Sorry messages
Men often let an argument go without ever saying it is settled, which is not the same as it being settled. A written apology gives him something to accept rather than something to answer.
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Continue writing opens that message in the card with the words already in it, so all that is left is to change a word and send it. The last message is the longest of the six, and it is the only one you have to copy across yourself.
I'm sorry. I was in the wrong and I've stopped trying to argue myself out of it. I said it to win rather than because I meant it, and that was unkind. You've been good to me and I wasn't, and I'd like to make that right. ❤️
Continue writing with message 1I'm sorry I brushed it off. It clearly mattered to you and I treated it like it was nothing, which is a rubbish thing to do to someone. I've thought about it properly since. Tell me when you want to talk and I'll actually listen.
Continue writing with message 2I've been unfair to you for about a week now, over things that had nothing to do with you. I'm sorry. You noticed and said nothing, which I don't deserve. I don't want to leave this sitting between us any longer than it has already.
Continue writing with message 3I know I can be stubborn well past the point where it helps anybody, and that's exactly what happened here. I'm sorry. I'd rather sort this out than be right about it. Whenever you're ready, I'm around, and I'll do the listening.
Continue writing with message 4I've typed this out four times and deleted it, which is my whole problem in one line. So, plainly: I was wrong, I'm sorry, and I don't want a week to go past with it unsaid. Let me make it up to you properly, in person.
Continue writing with message 5I'm sorry. I said what I said to win the argument rather than because I meant it, and we both know that's the worse of the two. I've been stubborn well past the point where it helped anybody. You've been patient with me and I repaid it badly. I don't want this sitting between us. Let me make it up to you properly.
Do not apologise and ask for reassurance in the same breath. Are we okay? at the end hands him a job — comforting you about your own mistake — and he will do it to end the discomfort rather than because it is true. Apologise, stop, and let him answer in his own time.
If he is the type who says it is fine too fast, say so in the note. Naming the pattern gently is the one thing that gets past it, and it also tells him the apology was thought about rather than typed on the way to something else.
One sealed card, one apology, no follow-up paragraph.
Write the apologyIt arrives as a sealed envelope they open on their phone.