Wedding invitation messages
The invitation most people actually receive is a message, not a card — and it usually arrives as a forward with somebody else’s wording still in it. These six are written to be sent as they are: they do the asking, and every function’s date, time and venue goes on a card of its own.
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Continue writing opens that message in the card with the words already in it. None of them carry a date or a venue, because each function gets a card of its own behind the first one. So all that is left is to add the functions — mehendi, sangeet, phere, reception, or whichever set your own family keeps — each with its own date, time and place. The last message is the longest of the six, and it is the only one you have to copy across yourself.
We're getting married, and this is us inviting you properly rather than by group forward. Come for whichever part you can make, and stay for longer than you planned to. If it's a choice between coming for one thing and not coming at all, come for one thing.
Continue writing with message 1You're invited. There will be more food than anyone can reasonably account for, a great many people you half recognise being delighted to see you, and at least one of us crying at something small. We'd really like you there for it.
Continue writing with message 2Saving you the group forward: we're getting married, and we'd rather you heard it from us. Block the days out now and sort the rest later. If you need a hand with the travel or somewhere to stay the night, tell us early and we'll work it out.
Continue writing with message 3Consider yourself formally, warmly and slightly desperately invited. Bring an appetite, comfortable shoes, and a tolerance for being introduced to eleven people whose names you'll have forgotten inside a minute. We'll be very glad to see you.
Continue writing with message 4We're getting married, and you're welcome at every part of it, not only the ceremony. The smaller gatherings are the ones where you'll actually get to talk to us, so come to one of those if you come to nothing else. Just come.
Continue writing with message 5We're getting married, and this is the whole invitation rather than a forwarded picture of somebody else's. You're invited to every part of it. If you can only make one, come to whichever one you'd enjoy most, and don't feel you have to explain about the rest. And if the travel or a room for the night is the difficulty, tell us early — we would far rather sort it out than miss you.
Keep the date, the time and the venue out of the sentence. Every function gets its own card in the packet, carrying its own date, time and place, and that card is where a reader will look for them. A message that repeats them is a second copy you then have to keep in step by hand — move the mehendi by an hour and you will update one and forget the other. Fill the cards in first and carefully, because an invitation is the one kind of message where a wrong detail means somebody arrives on the wrong day.
Then use the message for the thing the cards cannot do: say which part you want them at. A wedding is three or four events, and Do come is too vague to act on. Come for the mehendi if you can only make one thing tells the reader what to block out — the card says when the mehendi is, and your sentence says it is the one you want them for. That is also what makes a forwarded invitation stop reading like a forward.
The same message sent to two hundred people is a group forward. The same message inside a sealed envelope with your two names on it is an invitation.
Write the invitationIt arrives as a sealed envelope they open on their phone.