Thank you messages

Thank you messages for a friend

Somebody sat with you in a hospital corridor, lent you money without asking why, or answered at two in the morning. It was probably never thanked for properly. This is that.

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Six messages you could actually send

Continue writing opens that message in the card with the words already in it, so all that is left is to change a word and send it. The last message is the longest of the six, and it is the only one you have to copy across yourself.

  1. Thank you for last month. I don't think I said it properly at the time, and it's been on my mind since. You showed up without being asked and stayed a lot longer than you needed to. I noticed all of it.

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  2. Thank you for not giving me advice when what I needed was somebody to sit there and say nothing. Most people can't manage that. You did it for an entire evening without once checking your phone.

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  3. I'd have handled that far worse on my own and we both know it. Thank you for making sure I never had to find out how much worse. I'm not good at saying this in person, so here it is in writing.

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  4. You never brought it up afterwards, not once, and that was its own kindness. Thank you for that as much as for the help itself. If it's ever the other way round, you know exactly where I am.

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  5. Thank you. You dropped everything, came across the city and pretended you were passing anyway. You weren't passing anyway. I've thought about that a great deal more than you probably have.

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  6. I've been meaning to say this since it happened and kept not finding the right moment, which is a silly thing to do with something good. Thank you for that week. I wouldn't have got through it in one piece without you in it, and I'm not saying that for effect.

Writing your own

Thank them for the specific thing, including the awkward part. What lands is not thanks for everything, it is thank you for driving to the hospital at 11pm and then not making it a story afterwards. Naming what it cost them is what turns a courtesy into a real acknowledgement.

Do not settle the debt in the card. I owe you one turns a gift into a ledger and lets you both off the hook. Just say thank you, fully, and repay it later without announcing that it is repayment.

Say it once, in writing, so it stops being the thing you keep meaning to say.

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It arrives as a sealed envelope they open on their phone.

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